Dating an unemotional person
If you didn’t make it so easy and perfect when he is with you, by not complaining and making sure you look absolutely gorgeous, by having the house spotless…if you were just your ordinary every day self, the way his wife is, would he still treasure you?If you weren’t providing an escape from another relationship, would he still want you?Intimate, but isolated You have a wonderful newfound closeness with this man that you may not have had for a very long time.However, as time goes by he becomes one of the few people you can be intimate with because you cannot share what is most important for you in your life with most others.Self-righteous, yet guilty You tell yourself you deserve to be happy, that you are making him happy.You may even tell yourself you are helping him to be a better husband by the love and comfort you provide.Your sense of intimacy with your lover can seem more intense when he becomes one of the few people you can really talk to.Free, but a prisoner You have been freed from the dating game, from the painful aspects of being single, yet you are tied to his schedule.
In these initial stages you are not wanting to think too deeply about the realities you are creating in your life by pursuing this relationship.
Friends and family sense you are closed off in some way, and can become confused and discouraged about your relationship with them.
You can feel this, yet are afraid it would cause more damage to their feelings about you if they knew.
Participating in an affair necessitates entering an altered state of consciousness where only part of reality can be processed, the part that has to do with pleasure.
It’s like being in a trance, complete with it’s own logic.